BABY MAMAS AND BABY DADDIES WAR IN THE CELEBRITIES WORLD: WHOSE FAULT?
“You wanna know what’s worse than a child being
told his/her parents irresponsibility and negligence towards them, and then
seeing a child growing to understand it by him/herself? Seeing is believing my
people. Karma is as real as it gets. Be careful how you lay your bed in this
present day, because the seed you sow now, determines if you ever get a bed to
lay on in the future. Be wise and YOLO with sense.”- Shola Ogudu, Wizkid's first baby mama (THISDAY, 2018)
Fame and wealth without doubt draw public attention to individuals
that worked their way to stardom or are privileged to attain fame. With the
celebrity tag, one is tasked to live up to expectations of the public, a
celebrity hardly keep secret due to the ever present paparazzi quick to report
a celebrity’s life to the public. Male celebrities are confronted with the
challenge of having many female fans, its a problem because these fans go as
far as sending nude pictures to these celebrities, they flaunt around in club
houses with seductive moves to lure these celebrities to bed for one night
stand, quickie, or trap them with pregnancy into lifetime bond or baby daddy
role as a result of the offspring. It is equally important to note that some male celebrities prefer to
have baby mamas because they believe women come after their wealth not love,
some are scared of what they stand to loose if divorce sets in. Female
celebrities are also confronted with the challenge of having male fans but
unlike their male folks, their male fans are scared of making advances to them
due to their low financial status in the society, female celebrities sometimes
end up as wives or baby mamas to men of equal status based on their choice.
Female celebrities’ main challenges in the entertainment industry are sexual
harassment, unequal competitive ground and host of other challenges, that is
not our topic for today though.
In recent times, baby mamas on social media have blasted their
baby daddies with claims that they do not live up to responsibilities as
fathers with notable examples as popular Nigerian music star Ayodeji Ibrahim
Balogun popularly known as Wizkid baby mamas calling him out on social media,
and Israeli based Nigerian football star John Ogu’s baby mama also accusing him
of not being there for his daughter after separating with him. Most of these
women hinge their accusations on the fact that these men fail to be physically
present when their kids need them most. Male celebrities blame their lack of
physical presence to work in other to ensure their kids have better life when
they grow up. The bust up between baby mamas and baby daddies can be blamed on
absence of love between both parents, men’s irresponsibility, women’s
gold-digging attitude, and public interference amongst other factors.
''A deadbeat dad tells everyone he loves and
misses his kids but makes no efforts to see them. He refuses to help support
his children to better their lives. He doesn’t put his kids on his priority
list but he will for someone else’s kids. So next time you hear say how much he
loves and misses his kids, ask when the last time that he saw them.''- Binta Diallo, Wizkid's second baby mama (THISDAY, 2018).
The bond for any union between a man and woman is love and trust, and
when absent, things are bound to get wrong. A man will hardly visit a woman he
has no love and affection for and since the kids have better care with the
mothers, men feel all they need do is fund the child’s upkeep. Women on the
other hand find it hard not to rain abuses and nag at men they feel have hurt
their emotions in the past and left them feeling less. Most times when baby
daddies visit their baby mamas, the outcome is usually brutal to the child’s
mental upbringing. It is very difficult for a man with kids from different
women to pay attention to their upbringing, it is easier with a wife he loves
and trusts, she will defend his inadequacies but a baby mama will hardly do
that due to the absence of love and trust. Having a baby mama is not as
beautiful as the way it is presented in movies, it comes with a lot of
responsibilities and both parties find it hard to device means to raise the
child properly.
Men’s irresponsibility is another major reason for
misunderstandings between baby mamas and baby daddies. There are celebrities
that hit stardom at a very young age especially footballers who on most
occasion are from the streets and barely know what the responsibilities of a
father entails. When the kids come, they fail to recognize its time to flirt
less and concentrate on family. Women with natural multitasking ability and the
pain of bearing a child find it difficult to look aside the role of child
upbringing. It is not irrelevant to point out that the dumb belief of some men
that raising a child is solely the responsibility of a woman play a major role
in the constant beef between both parties.
The gold digging attitude of some baby mamas causes rift. With the
seductive prowess of women, they can get a man’s penis engulfed between their
legs with the men begging for more. Everything comes clean when pregnancy sets
in, men realize they have been taken advantage of, they develop resentment
towards these women when they run an intel on them and discover they do not
measure to their financial status and deliberately get pregnant to gain from
their wealth (some of these women love genuinely though). Like it or not, a man
will hardly love when he is forced to due to circumstances. The offspring suffer
from the mistake surrounding his/her birth.
Public interference could also make both parties
loose respect for each other due to rumours that on most occasion turn out to
be false. For instance, a baby daddy might be in London and news outlets will
report he is in Nigeria and when the baby mama tries to reach him so he can
come see their child and she fails, he turns out to be irresponsible, the man
will do same. Rumours break marriages talk more of people that do not have love
for each other.
Conclusively, the trend of baby mamas and daddies will continue.
There is no need offering suggestions on how to curb or end it, men will always
be men and likewise women. I believe raising children and teaching youths how
to be better parents will help men and women understand the role they both have
to play in raising a child whether as man and wife or baby mama and baby daddy,
it is nobody’s fault.
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